{"id":330,"date":"2015-02-26T02:10:38","date_gmt":"2015-02-26T02:10:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/azmi.co\/cust\/ngba-wp\/?page_id=330"},"modified":"2023-07-23T16:01:40","modified_gmt":"2023-07-23T16:01:40","slug":"islam-wife-beatingchastisement","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/nogodbutallah.org\/?page_id=330","title":{"rendered":"Islam-wife-beating\/chastisement"},"content":{"rendered":"

In the name of All\u0101h,
\n<\/span>the Beneficent, the Merciful.
\n<\/span>Peace and Blessings of All\u0101h on Mohammad.
\n<\/span>DEDICATED TO
\n<\/span>All\u0101h\u2013the Glorious and the High,
\n<\/span>Lord of the worlds
\n<\/span>AND TO
\n<\/span>Mohammad\u2013who brought the world
\n<\/span>to our feet and eternity to our arms.
\n<\/span>*<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

ISLAM & WIFE-BEATING<\/span><\/p>\n

The wife has rights upon the husband and the husband has rights upon the wife. The wife has the right that the husband feed, clothe and house her, and treats her kindly. The husband has the right that the wife protects his property, preserves her chastity, and raise children in the best manners and education. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0 That husbands and wives are garments to the other\u2013(Qur\u2019an 2:187) to beautify, protect, comfort, and conceal each other\u2019s faults, this alone shows that there is no indiscriminate beating of the wife.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0 All\u0101h says, \u201cAs to those women on whose part you fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance)\u201d\u2013(Qur\u2019an 4:34.Fear of \u201cdisloyalty\u201d would stem from an act contrary to mutual agreement, as marriage is).<\/span><\/p>\n

(A child who is more prone to forgetfulness, is not an example of role model, and not \u201ccontracted\u201d to moral behavior is spanked for misdemeanor, made to stand in a corner, or\/and sent to bed without supper; if a woman reports, truthfully or not, that she was assaulted, her male partner is thrown in jail; if one commits an offence he\/she is fined or thrown into prison. So where is the problem if Islam imposes corporal discipline for the wife who is required to be a role model and is obligated to moral conduct?<\/span><\/p>\n

Partners in a business are required to fulfill their obligations. If one party lacks in his responsibility\/duty or does not wish to fulfill it he is to sever his partnership; he cannot expect to abdicate his role and yet receive the rewards of the business. <\/span><\/p>\n

Marriage is a sacred covenant. The wife (or husband) that does not fulfil her responsibility cannot expect to receive the benefit from the marriage. Such a wife is to leave the marriage. In requiring the man to be patient and continue supporting her \u2013and to even seek arbitration\u2013 while she abdicates her duty Islam is being tolerant with her, giving her time to reform, and trying to save the marriage. <\/span><\/p>\n

These three steps required by Islam \u2013admonishing her; avoiding her bed; and lightly beating her\u2013 which is a drawn-out process, highlights the wife\u2019s stubbornness in reforming and observing her part of the marriage contract; all the while receiving the benefit of the contract. Under such a strain to the man this light chastisement can hardly be deemed unjust or severe to the woman. She brought it onto herself. And to avoid it she could leave before it reaches the final stage). <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0 A Muslim is not even allowed to hate his wife much less beat her\u2013(Muslim Vol. 2, #3469).<\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n

Chastisement is only for the wayward wife,\u00a0<\/i>and only as a last resort (and only if the husband is not himself wayward, for women have rights similar to those against them\u2013Qur\u2019an 2:228). <\/span><\/p>\n

(That a wife, who is able to, can \u201cbeat\u201d the wayward husband, the Prophet advises against this1<\/span> <\/sup>\u2013perhaps because it may lead to ridicule from his male counterpart; which might lead him to become criminal against his wife. While a \u201cbeaten\u201d wife can also become criminal she may less likely be so on account of women being softer at heart, less likely to be ridiculed by her counterpart, and have greater concern and care for her family). <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0 This chastisement is not to be of a brutal nature. Muhammad Ali has noted, \u201cThe Prophet is reported to have said: \u201cYou have a right in the matter of your wives that they do not allow anyone whom you do not like to come into your houses; if they do this, chastise them in such a manner that it should not leave an impression. (Tirmidhi 10:11).\u201d Thus very light chastisement was allowed only in extreme cases.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

The wife has the right to leave the husband if she fears cruelty from him\u2013(Qur\u2019an 4:128).<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0 That the Prophet never beat any of his wives is evidenced from this hadith in which Bokhari records a long narration in which \u2018Umar\u2019s wife told him that his daughter, Hafsa, \u201cargues with All\u0101h\u2019s Apostle (peace and blessings of All\u0101h be upon him) so much that he remains angry for a full day.\u201d Whereupon \u2018Umar went to Hafsa who admitted, \u201cwe argue with him.\u201d To which her father advised her \u201cDon\u2019t be betrayed by the one who is proud of her beauty because of the love of Allah\u2019s Apostle (peace be on him) for her (i.e. \u2018Aisha).\u201d (Bokhari, Vol. 6, #435). <\/span><\/p>\n

It is doubtful \u2018Aisha and Hafsa would have \u201cargued\u201d with the Prophet and to the extent that \u201che remains angry for a full day\u201d if he was beating them.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Significantly, chastisement of the wayward wife would seem almost impossible to be carried out. For, if the wife fears cruelty from her husband and\/or if she is wont to be out of the marriage she can leave before the situation reaches the third stage of chastisement. <\/span><\/p>\n

Regarding this wife-beating of the Qur\u2019an one Christian quarter on the Internet<\/i> tries to use it to denigrate Islam. <\/span><\/p>\n

While Islam allows this light chastisement of the\u00a0wayward wife (and, as shown, only if the husband is not himself wayward, and the wife has rights as that against her) what does the Bible say about wives (good and\u00a0wayward)? <\/span><\/p>\n

The Biblical God (and Jesus as Christians say Jesus is God) decreed: \u201cUnto the woman (Eve), he (God) said: \u2026and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee<\/i>\u201d\u2013(Gen. 3:16).<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

And while\u00a0<\/a>Paul commands husbands to love their wives, he demands that wives \u201csubmit\u201d themselves to their husbands \u201cas it is fit in the Lord\u201d\u2013(Col. 3:19, 18); and \u201c<\/i>As the Church is subject unto Christ, <\/i><\/span>SO LET THE WIVES BE TO THEIR OWN HUSBANDS IN EVERY THING<\/span>\u201d<\/span>\u2013 \u201cAnd the wife see that <\/span>SHE REVERENCE<\/span> HER HUSBAND\u201d<\/span>\u2013(Ephesians 5:22-23, 33. <\/span>The man being told to love his wife does not mean she is free from bondage. People also \u201clove\u201d their dogs and other pets and even bequeath fortunes to them. And Paul also instructs masters to be kind to their slaves\u2013Eph. 6:9; Col. 4:1). \u201cLet the woman learn in <\/span>SILENCE<\/span> with <\/span>ALL<\/span><\/span> SUBJECTION.<\/span> But <\/span>I SUFFER NOT A WOMAN TO TEACH, NOR TO USURP AUTHORITY OVER THE MAN <\/span>but to be <\/span>IN SILENCE<\/span>\u2013(<\/span>1Tim.2:11-12).<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0 Clearly, the permission to employ whatever methods are necessary to \u201crule\u201d over the wife and to bring\/keep her in \u201csilence and in \u201call subjection\u2019 are inherent and enshrined in these words of God and Paul.<\/span><\/p>\n

To take the matter further, authority for employing corporal punishment to discipline the rebellious wife who does not \u201cdesire\u201d to be \u201cruled\u201d over in \u201csilence\u201d and with \u201call subjection\u201d may be gleaned from the Biblical verses on child-rearing, God (and as Christians say Jesus is God, then Jesus) says:
\n\u201cHe that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes;\u201d \u201cChasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying;\u201d \u201cWithhold not correction from the child: for if you beatest him with the rod, he shall not die, Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell\u201d
\n<\/span>(and without doubt every \u201cChristian\u201d husband wants to deliver his stubborn\/rebellious wife\u2019s \u201csoul from hell\u201d)\u2013(Proverbs 13:24; 19:18; 23:13-14).<\/span><\/p>\n

Perhaps a survey of Christian women\/wives of all Christian denominations can be conducted to find out how many were \u201cbeaten\u201d into \u201csilence\u201d and \u201call subjection.\u201d
\n<\/span>Surely, not all the \u201cbattered\u201d wives in Western countries are non-Christians.
\n<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

And for the Hindu wife and husband guilty of \u201cmisconduct\u201d:
\n\u201cShould a wife out of her family pride desert her husband and misconduct herself, let the king condemn her to be devoured by dogs before all men and women. Similarly should a husband forsake his wife and misconduct himself with other women, let the king cause that sinner to be burnt alive publicly on a red hot iron-bed.\u201d-(<\/span>Swami Dayananda Saraswati, Light Of Truth<\/em>, p. 199).<\/span><\/p>\n

\n

NOTES<\/span><\/p>\n

1.<\/span> Al-Hakim, cited in, Mubarak Ali, The Muslim Handbook<\/i>, p. 288.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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